Bemused
Joseph
Thank you It’s quite amazing how many people have no problem telling others what and how they should preform chesed.
Jothar:
I have asked your question to numerous shadchanim who don’t have a price and just graciously receive whatever is given. They have told me that typical shadchanus is $1,000 to $1,500 each side.
However it varies by community and obviously people who can’t afford give less wealthy more. But the $$ amount I quoted is pretty much the going rate.
For all those holier than thou people:
Take a guess how many shidduchim per year the busiest shadchanim make. Yeah the ones who have no personal or private life left because they are hounded non stop from 7am until 1am. The ones who go to weddings and don’t put a morsel of food in their mouth because mothers are lining up to get their attention. The ones whose married children can’t talk to them on the phone because they receive 100 incoming phone calls a day – the callers (due to frustration/desperation) DEMAND that they get return calls. The ones who can’t have private time with their children because of the incessant phone calls and the need to navigate the tricky waters and logistics of whatever active dates on on their head on any given day.
Anyone want to venture how many shiddcuhim they make in their best year??