Countless, ideas come up all the time sometimes the shadchan thinks of an idea and the boy doesn’t look in to it at all, or looks in to it but it’s “not for him”, actually going out is a separate thing it really depends on the boys mom.. if shes open minded-a breath of fresh air–she’ll allow for the shadchan to give his info. then the girl’s mom calls his references if she’s openminded or desperate she’ll “just give him a date” but if she’s picky and the answer is “no” were back at square one!
This can go on who knows how long with everyone in the frum comm. So the question really is all the singles are getting redt shidduchim but no…for one person this isn’t good enough and another this isn’t and before long the shadchanim wont bother calling anymore!
The succesful ones are for frum, open minded, considerate and caring singles
also whose parents aren’t overbearing and overprotective!!!!!!!
who understand we all have faults I mean we’re not Hashem!