Bemused: It’s nice to see that some people get it. I have actually encouraged various shadchanim to read this thread and they are flabbergasted by the attitudes people express here.
I disagree with you on one point and that is why should a shadchan NOT be compensated for all the time and effert involved when they go out 3/4/5 times and then break it off. The shadchan invested time and energy and deserves to be fairly compensated. There are many many fields where one pays for the time energy and skilll invested in providing the service, whether or not the result is what the parties wished for. The only determining factor is whether the the person providing the service did their role propely.
Shadchanim can NOT guarantee marriage. (perhpas our mistake lie in expecting shadchanim to get our children married???) All they can do is suggest appropriate ideas and put in the time and effort to bring that suggestion to fruition. Surely if the boy and girl chose to meet 3/4/5 times it was a very legit suggestion.
Why do they not got paid for that????