oomis1105:
If you think that is never okay to hound another jew please explain how it has become acceptable to treat the shadchanim that way. There is no other way to explain what they endure.
As for the specific amount:
That should be determined by a free market like everything else in our society. Why have we decided that a token hakaras hatov (which by the way even that almost never comes) is sufficient.
Truth be told the shadchanim do it to themselves. If they weren’t so nice and kind they wouldn’t be taken advantage of. By and large they are very nice and bashful and don’t have it in them to ask for fair compensation, therefore they are abused.
Doesn’t excuse the abusers.