AZ, do what you want. The kind of attitude you display is one which I have seen in many guys. They have such a need and zeal to be right, that they quote gemaras and p’sukim, seforim, and Gedolim to support their point, but fail to understand that ALL of that does not make the particular point that they are fighting so HARD to prove, to be appropriate. I do not have to speak to Rav Shteinman, to know that at least one single woman here has already expressed dismay at your use of that loshon, yet you stubbornly continue to cling to the expression of agunos and akaros, KNOWING it hurts some posters hear to be compared to them, and ALSO knowing that it has been pointed out to you that agunos and akaros would likewise be hurt by your comparison of their tragedy to that of a girl not yet meeting her zivug (which is difficult enough on its OWN merits). Onaas devarim is very serious. Most people in this day and age do not refer to anyone as an agunah unless she is unable to be freed from her marriage, and no one calls a woman an akara unless she is infertile. However many times you are told that, you stubbornly insist what you insist, and it matters little HOW many Gemaras or rabbonim you quote in this specific isntance. I have known guys with that same middah, and it is not a good one for anyone to have.
I don’t know if you are married or not (hope you are), but if not, you might want to consider that knowing when to graciously admit you “might” be mistaken about doing something (even if in your heart you feel you are right),might be good practice for compromise in a future relationship.