Why don’t all you folks see the Rashi in Parshas Mishpatim on “Azov ta’azov imo”?
Rashi says “Pe’amim she’atah chodel, u’pe’amim she’atah ozer”. There are times you are supposed to help someone with a heavy load, and sometimes not.
Rashi gives two examples. Zakein v’aino lifi chivodo and beheimas oveid kochavim. An old man who passes someone with a heavy load weighing down a donkey, it would not be kovodik for the old man to help. Or if an akum is the one with a heavy load, the yisrael can withhold helping.
I think it is (and should be) pashut to any thinking, rational person, that if a woman was excluded from being helped (and vice versa) Rashi would have said so. You don’t need to ask shailos. You have a clear mitzvah in the Torah….