“IMO, singles have to look out for being pushed into rushing into an engagement after only a few short weeks of dating someone. They also have to forget everything they were brainwashed to believe in Seminary, lose the stars in their eyes about shidduchim and their future as Mrs. Kollel Wife, and cash a reality check, before making such an important decision. They need to focus on the middos that THEY observe in the boy or girl, how that person treats tradespeople, waiters, their parents and siblings. They need to determine if the person has outlandish opinions or demands that need to be met.
How do the parents treat each OTHER (especially the father treating his wife with respect). They need to know what a budget looks like, and discuss how they will live financially should Mommy and Totty NOT be able to help with support. What happens when they have kids (as they probably will, right away)? Too many couples do not discuss these things fully. They focus on the transient outer trappings of being engaged, the excitement, the vort, the wedding plans, but not on the things that matter because they are supposed to last a lifetime.”
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