Eliezer tested Rifka Imeinu to see if she was worthy of Yitzchok, and to enter
Avrohom Avinu’s Family & she passed with flying colors!!!
In This sense I mean testing. Like bringing up a a story or a hypothetical
about being sensitive to other poeples feelings, and seeing her reaction,
if she really gets it or it just doesn’t have an impact. There is no exact science
to this but if you’re tuned into people, you can get a good feel for a
midah that she or he doesnt seem to be tuned into, after bringing it up
at different times in different ways.
I really don’t mean putting someone into a difficult situation
to see how they act.
Although if Hashgocha Protis sends a situation, PLEASE be tuned into
the person and how they react it is a sign from HB”H
those who are tuned into the right station will get the message loud and clear,
while those who are to busy with Chiztonius, (outer appearance only)
might be left with just that.