Reply To: Binah-Shidduch Issue

oomis “Many wonderful young women, and men too, are simply not meeting the right people for them, and it has nothing to do with the need for self-improvement, but more to do with bad timing, mazel etc”. “It is onaas devarim to say such things to them”

I have to disagree. I think that most older singles have probably met their “bashert” once and either rejected or been rejected. It is doing them a great disservice to coddle them and imply that they are perfect and discourage them from personal improvement that would make them willing to accept or be acceptable to their “bashert”.

If we truly want to see them married, sometimes it is necessary to face the painful truth!