AZ, I don’t often get the Yated before Monday (out of town mail delivery).
I am intrigued by the torture line. Perhaps I need to see the total context but at what age does being an older singer young woman become torture? Or is it the demoralizing shidduch scene, in which case, how long does a young woman have to go out unsuccessfully or it to qualify as torture? As there is subtle and not so subtle encouragement to delay dating, will girls reach the torture stage earlier in their shidduch phase?
I don’t mean to downplay this. I know that even the young women with the biggest smiles and stiffest upper lips will have their down days but what are we doing to our girls by such rhetoric? Aren’t we raising them to have simchas hachaim and feel productive regardless of their marital status, especially as they get older and more skilled, professionally and personally, and may be able to make even more contributions in their communities?
Am I missing something?
And just for the record, I DO have kids in the parsha.