realtalk, though I do understand the point you make about sefardi only wanting to go out with sefardi, etc. you also need to allow that people who come from diverse cultural hashkafos do not always feel comfortable with each other in the way that is necessary to make a marriage work. Many do, of course, and B”H for that, but I think it has more to do with the individual temperaments of the parties involved. Some people do not want to adopt the customs of the male spouse who is of a different culture, and if so, they are wise to make that early decision NOT to date people outside their comfort zone. They certainly should not be criticized for it, in my opinion. I know of several couples where there were some serious communication problems because of this. I also know of many Ashkenaz/Sefardi, Chassidish/Litvish, American/ foreign born, and even Yankees/Mets couples who were most happily married for decades.
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