AZ, a friend’s 20 y.o. daughter just got engaged to a 24 y.o. Seems like a beautiful shidduch to me. But are they perpetuating the problem? How many in range shidduchim will it take for the age gap to narrow? What do the number crunchers have to say about this? And back to our regularly scheduled thread here, older singles: do they have to marry within the range too to not be perpetuating the problem?
(And I will leave aside your breathtaking underestimation of the middos we can and should aspire to, and that a nisayon should be bringing out. You might be stating a reality, people will behave poorly if they can get away with it, but we ignore that at our peril too. Talk about straightening the deck chairs…)