AZ, could you clarify that Arizal reference? I’m not conversant in the Ari. Does that mean that the maximum age difference is 18 years?
And I’m not interested in getting my kids married at any price. I want them to build happy, batei neeman b’Yisrael. I don’t believe that if my daughter marries someone more than 2.2 years older than she that she’s ruining it for the rest of the world and committing some sort of avlah.