Best Ima –
You are right, bashing the parents is wrong. And not making sure mistakes don’t repeat themselves is even more wrong.
Like my uninsured example, wif we as a society do not learn from others mistakes, THAT is tragic. If an overworked mother needs to:
* deputize her 11 y/o to tend to the 2 month old,
* who is also asked to frying onions for the side dish, and
* answer the phone, (beauce no one else is nearby, and after the 4th ring the screaming starts)
* and in the process the skillet gets pulled off the stove and gives little 2 month old 3rd degree burns,
then yes, we need not beat up the mother who now has to drop everyting and go to the burn unit.
But after the burns heal, WE NEED TO MAKE SURE THE SAME MISTAKES ARE NOT REPEATED!
Sorry for yelling, but I see this scene with minor variations played out all the time(ok, not the burn unit ending.
Mom is working herself to death, Poppa is juggling more than he can as it is, and so the beat goes on.
So the right thing to do, when things do spin out of control is to look and see, “what can we, as a society, learn from this to make sure it does not happen again?”
If we do that, then the pain has not been for nothing. If we stay complacent, we should be ashamed of ourselves