Thanks. Now, B”H I am mostly better although I still have a lot of rehab that I am going through. At least superficially on the outside I can basically walk so I don’t have to deal with questions from other people even though I still have difficulty walking.
At the points where I was not doing well, there were times when I wouldn’t go to chasunos or other things because of people’s comments and I think the more people who realize that the better.
I used to hang out with someone who was dealing with a different nisayon. Her way of dealing with it was to try and use humor.
One year for Purim she made me a t-shirt which had on the back things like “yes, I am still on crutches.” ” no, i don’t know when i will be better.” “yes, i checked into my dr. and he knows what he is doing. “yes, I am taking care of myself.” ” no, i didn’t try this type of alternative medicine or treatment but I am doing the proper hishtadlus .” etc.. it was sad but funny.
B”H one thing that I have recived from dealing with this nisayon was that I have become a much more sensitive person to other ppl now that I realized how much words can hurt.