“A “hosheve” Rebbetzin said, see, so many people started davening for you (she included) and now you are expecting… Sure it was true but it made me feel that all those times I begged Hashem for a child and cried so much i had no tears left meant nothing. Maybe this is silly, but I still felt that way. “
YM, I really hope you can finally let go of the negative feeling that this woman’s (I believe well-intentioned) comment gave you. I don’t believe she meant ill, but rather was clumsily trying to give you the chizuk that so many people cared enough about you, herself, included, to daven for your matzav. That does NOT mean that all your own davening and the tears you shed meant nothing to Hashem. We don’t know His cheshbonos. Maybe Hashem wants to see that people care enough about each other to daven for someone else’s benefit. Whatever the reason, I cannot believe your rebbetzin meant anything but good things for you, and perhaps simply expressed herself (unknowingly I am sure) in a way that you were not yet ready to hear. The end result was you had a baby boy, and may you always have great joy and yiddishe nachas from him, no matter WHOSE tefilos Hashem was answering when you became pregnant with him (and ultimately were not all those tefilos your own, as well?) I hope I am not saying anything to you that you might perceive in any way other than as the chizuk I am trying to give you.