em es -I know its easier said but don’t make such cheshboinos! You are redding a shidduch to help people. Often those in the parsha are just so peeved by people suggesting things that did not work out, through being hurt, they say thoughtless things. I just think to myself “nebech”.
I am now going through the hardest test in my life _ I daven no one should experience it. I have lost all my hair to chemotherapy. I was never someone who used cosmetics. I now do and know I look better with eg.painted eyebrows rather than no eyebrows. Stupid lady comes over to me (she knew my health problems) and says its not fitting for you as a chasidishe lady to use cosmetics. B”H it did not bother me for too long – Now I just think of her (rightly or wrongly) as a fool!