Thats not for you to decide. did you ask a rav how much talk is the right amount? Did you ask if your aloud to have “silly talk” especially when the mishna clearly sayz your not supposed to talk too much?
No. B”H I’ve been married for nearly twenty years and have a wonderful relationship with my wife that I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. I know better than anyone else (including any rav) how to relate to my wife. I do not need to ask a shaila on how to talk to my wife, thank you very much.
The Wolf