“when I was a bachur, I used to eat quite often by a family. It took me perhaps 8-10 visits to the home before I realized that the Mrs.of the home was not named “Herna” by her parents :)”
apushatayid, come to think of it, my Rov A”H (who is a tzaddik nister from 2 generations ago and was a Rov in Europe before the war) would always say “Hernor” (or something like that) when trying to call his wife upstairs (the Bais Medrash was downstairs and his house upstairs), when there were people around him. He never publicly called her by first name in public. I always assumed “Hernor” was Yiddish for “Hello” (not literally but figuratively; I think it means “hear” literally). Is that what it is?
We have so much to learn from the zekenim of yener dor. We just need to open our eyes, ears, and heart a little bit. (I’m speaking to myself foremost about this.)