No, that is not what I said, Max. BTY WHOSE standards,exactly it is wrong? That is VERY shayach to the inyan. Just because you think someone is wrong, does not necesssarily make YOU correct in your opinion. The Torah obligates us to give mussar to someone committing an aveira (but we also have to assess the situation and determine whether or not the person is committing b’shogeig, and will then be committing b’meizid, if you sday something at that moment). But that aveira has to be a definite issur D’Oraisah, not just YOUR opinion that it is assur. Don’t give mussar to someone eating at a KOSHER restaurant that you do not frequent yourself, because you hold by a different hechsher. Too many people quite arrogantly assume that ONLY they know the halacha. There are shivim panim l’Torah and not all rabbonim are maskim with each other. There are specifics of the Torah that must never ever be abrogated (except possibly in the case of pikuach nefesh), but there are so many gray areas, and your gray areas and mine may not be the same. Before you choose to give mussar to someone a) make absolutely sure that what you are saying is a given across the board to ALL Torah-observing Jews and b)that your own hands are clean in those areas. And always speak kindly to the person to whom you are giving that tochacha, otherwise it goes in one ear and out the other.
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