AND BTW just because someone is a Rabbi and works with kids in the parsha does not mean they have any training what-so-ever to be doing so. There are a lot of Rabbonim and Mechanchim involved with kids who have done more harm than good with their bad advice and Tough Love attitude. I have a very different perspective. I prefer to Love Tough! That doesn’t mean that I don’t guide children to make better choices for themselves and to understand that the choices they make carve out the paths and roads that lead to their futures, and can actually define their future. But I don’t hold them responsible for their past. The pain they carry within them is very real. I try to help them give it up to Hashem and let Hashem be the score keeper.
Holding them accountable for choosing to go off the derech is like holding them responsible for being hurt by other people or for feeling the pain. On the other hand, an adult who chooses to go off the derech IS responsible for that choice because an adult has the opportunity to reach out to any number of resources to help them with whatever issues they are experiencing.