WIY, As I mentioned, behira is certainly a valid point and as I always repeated in the threads – I am not God (b”H for that -that would not be a very good situation) and I don’t know how Hashem will judge anybody. I have repeatedly also said that there is the concept of teshuva.
So while you cleared up for me the fact that a person might be confused at a certain point of time in their life and therefore cannot make conscious decisions at a particualr point in their life, those who do not do teshuva cannot be explained away.
If we are to respect and accept sinful choices of the OTD’s and explain them all away with the concept of behira,then we can nicely shelve the concept that a person is here in this world with the tafkid to better themselves, we can shelve the concept of teshuva, we can shelve the concept of bechira – the choice of each individual to make their spitiual choices, we need to ignore that there will be punishment for sinners and we the concept of gehenim can be shelved as well. We need to ignore as well the fact that Hashem Himself COMMANDED us to follow his Torah.
These concepts are the basis of Yiddishkeit. There is no way we can minimize this.