Hey, I married a full time learning boy, I didn’t got to college, and get no support. And once I had kids, I decided to work from home since I wanted to be the one raising my kids and not a babysitter. Guess What? I feel like I’m living in a dream. I couldn’t be any happier. Parnassa doesn’t come from in laws, it doesn’t come froma bank account, and it doesn’t come from a paycheck. Parnassa comes from HASHEM only. Someone asked me how i pay my bills. You know what, I have no idea, but each month somehow it just ties together, I can’t explain it! Hashem sends the money. Of course things may get tight at times, and I can;t just buy whatever I want, but it doesn;t make me one bit less happier. I know your going to say you have to do your hishtadlut…. but everyone has a different amount of hishtadlut they have to put in. If you do x amount and say hashem will take care of the rest, but cant sleep at night, that person should be doing more. baisically, each person should do the amount of hishtadlut they feel secure with. Oh, and by the way, going to college doesn’t gurantee you a parnassa either. Hashem sends each person what theyre supposed to get, so everyone will get that amount whether they have a degree or whether they don’t. how many people nowadays have a degree but it doesn’t seem to be doing them much good? Ok, I’m not going to say a lot of people do get a lot from it, but it’s not the degree giving them that money.Oh, and by the way, kollel didn’t pay us until almost a year later. IMHO, there’s no use in calculating we need this much to live, so that means no kollel. We once were saving up for something we wanted, and when it came time to buy it, we did buy it, but guess what? We didn’t even end up paying for it with the money we saved up. No we didn’t get it as a gift either. For some reason that we can’t figure out, that month we had the extra money to pay for it ourselves (and were talking about a 1000 bucks, not like 100). I felt like Hashem was telling us you think you’re in control, that you’re the ones making money? Think again! If a girl sincerely wants to marry a kollel boy, and live a kollel life, GO FOR IT! Hashem will help! In high scholl a big rebbetzin camae to speak to us and told us if you sincerely dream to marry a kollel boy, Hashem will make that dream come true.
And you know what? If funds do, chas veshalom run out, he can always go to work! You never heard of a kollel couple living on the street!