Sms007- this is exactly the problem.
You’re saying if there’s no money the husband can get a job.
The problem is that when a family starts making bar mitzvahs and wedding, they need extra thousands SUDDENLY. It’s much too late then for a man to get a job and start with a $600 weekly income.
We need to plan now for our future. we can’t rely on miracles. People don’t have extra money to give when poor people come collecting at their door for marrying off their daughter.
This is not to discourage kollel. It’s great when the husband can learn a little. But each couple has to decide when it’s time for work. And many couples live in denial…