aries2756, I agree with your post except for the point anonymrs made.
The problem is that marriage today is a business deal. Before the couple even meet, the boy already has the promise that the girl and/or her parents will support for x amount of years. They don’t consider it something that is up for negotiations every so often. Both of them are not mature and realistic enough to realize that people change, circumstances change and no one knows in advance how they will handle pregnancy, being a working mom, etc. They don’t chap that they’re married to a person, not a laundry list, even if the person doesn’t keep their side of the “deal”. So even if the wife speaks to her husband about how hard it is, he’ll probably feel all bad for himself that his wife (who he only went out with in the first place cuz she promised to support) reneged on her promise.