volvie- I’m not as old as you think I am, the incident happened 10 years ago.
I wasn’t aware of any “picture mishagass” (doesn’t mean there wasn’t any) I just felt I needed to know what she looked like so I would know who to look out for.
(This was not to see if I found her attractive, it was after I already agreed to go out with her and she booked a flight. And for the record I insisted on flying out to her until she made a good argument as to why she had to be in New York anyway.)