Torahls1 duly notes and appreciates arc’s intellectual honesty.
It would seem that the response of Popa bar abba was an emotional ploy to get the reader to think that since I cannot answer all problems therefore my given comment was false. Although the reader is certainly aware of his attempts and therefore intellectually unswayed, emotionally my comment would be more readily accepted if I could respond.
Now the no-armed smoker R”L obviously has two different setbacks which must be separated for the purposes of this discussion. My comment was designed to be misorayr those who are chayiv in marriage to do their hishtadlus and therefore if the problem has no solution it would fall under the category of “Unus Rachamana patrei” and therefore was not meant to be addressed to begin. That this girl may smoke- although she can do something about it- is an indication that she is not interested in doing whats right regardless so for what purpose to waste our collective breath.