SMS –
The credo we live by is really one that was said about pesach cleaning, but it holds true to some extent for the whole year:
1) dust is not chometz
2) your spouse is not a shmatteh
3) your kids are not korbanos
That said, (even though I’m the male half of the BPT partnership) I know a thing or two about housekeeping, and cooking.
No, it is not acceptable to serve cereal and milk for supper, and no, changing the linen when the seasons change is too late.
But you do NOT need to make a “sheva brachos” supper each day of the week, and there is nothing wrong with asking the person who occupies the bed to at the very least strip and re-dress their own bed (unless its a toddler or invalid)
Besides, you (like all overworked housewives) need some time to recharge, and if you happen to work out of the house as well, I would change the ratio to 50/50 (housework time vs. personal time).
Running a house is hard work (I should know.. I’ve been solo since the start of the summer) and it deserves time off.