mw13, please remember what happened because of “cheit hameraglim” so I don’t agree that the yeshiva should have other people monitor their internet usage or anything else. Setting up spies is never a good idea. And that goes true for all these well meaning posts. Read the original post again and you will see what I mean, it is extremely judgmental “how do parents expect to teach their children…….”. It is not a post saying “for anyone new to the parsha of kids and cell phones, please be aware that……”or as I mentioned before a post posing a question pertaining to that person’s need for assistance with this particular issue.
When one begins speaking about how others are not keeping torah and mitzvos properly or that they are not being mechanech their children properly that is a total put down and it is ripe for loshon horah. It is a judgment that others are wrong and I am right and they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing because “x,y &z” and don’t you all agree with me. To me it is just nasty and it does breed this holier than thou or your not on my madreigah attitude. And it brings out the worst in people, calling each other nasty names and being utterly disrespectful and rude to each other right here on this blog. Some of the posts that get through shrieks with chutzpah and attitude. For instance, the remark that cell phones have caused the yeridah, just look how kids are being mechalel shabbos with cell phones. Please, it is not cell phones or internet that has caused kids to go off the derech. It is other Jews who have pushed and shoved them off the derech. And just as they would never have dreamt to use any of these muktza objects on Shabbos when they were shomer Torah and mitzvos, it doesn’t mean anything to them when they are no longer keeping mitzvos. Blaming cell phones, internet, tv, or anything else is not only ludicrous but it shows how much people choose to be in denial rather than face the real issues right under their noses.
I don’t come to the CR for mussar. However, if someone is looking for advice or assistance then I believe everyone would be happy to offer their opinions or personal knowledge on any subject.