i’m really sorry but kulos are looking for every loophole in yiddishkeit to do what we want. I have unfortunately seen many people with certain attitudes towards yiddishkeit that kills me. Attitudes like “it can’t be that it’s assur, the Torah wouldn’t be so strict…” not that they say these exact words but the attitude. (i actually did hear someone say regarding a certain halacha that it’s ch”v cruel!!!) Yiddishkeit is not always ice cream and loli pops! There are parts that are hard and we have to do them just like anything else. This whole attitude is from America of “vechai bohem” it has to be enjoyable, and fun. Yiddishkeit is delicious but sometimes there are things taht are hard and we have to do them just like anything else.
OOmis, i’m very sorry but people who take upon themselves chumrus don’t always have a gayva about them and make you feel like modern or whatever, if you feel like that maybe it’s because your insecure. You can’t make a generalization like taht. Maybe someone you know has that attitude, or the few people you know have such attitudes but how can you make a klal?