And I happen to disagree with you very strongly. Every single person I know who has divorced after a short marriage has said to me that they did not feel they had nearly sufficient time to get to know the boy or girl, because the shidduch system pushed them along too quickly, and since everything looked good “on paper,” and the parents were eager for the learning boy or the girl with a good job,they took the chance. After they got married and realized what they really had gotten themselves into, they were very disillusioned by the reality of married life to someone about whom they really knew very little, other than the facts that were good on paper. The shidduch system as we know it is NOT working well at all. Never have there been so many single frum boys and girls. We do not live in the shtetl anymore, and what was accepted then is not acceptable to many now. Take off your rosy glasses and really look around at how many FRUM kids in their late twenties and thirties are not married.
actually with my wife, just with my phone conversations the connections became greater, first when i was talking to her i had no connection then i felt i was talking to a friend and in the end i felt like she was my sister and the whole dating process took 2 nad a half months b/c i was from out of town, but i hear that in towners take two weeks so i agree for in towners it’s too fast but years is a stretch