SJS
in “the good marriage” – an excellent study of 50 long lasting successful marriages, it indeed states that couples found love either before- and sometimes afterwards (getting married based on mutual respect, admiration, attraction, and shared goals). Indeed, it can happen both ways everywhere.
Oomis-
Alas, you are indeed naive about what actually happens in our communities, as you clutch to this that all this can lead to is marriage. I know, know, you are a most respected matriach. But reality respects no one. I wish it were so. It’s not that way. Nor has it been since the dawn of time.