Helpful: “If someone posts here that she has a “heter” for something so obviously wrong, people do not have to accept such claims at face value and have a right – nay, obligation — to question and/or dispute such highly questionable and/or obviously wrong (especially anonymous) so-called heteirim.”
Again, you are no Rav. Therefore, you have no right to “dispute” the pasak of a Rav. Ever. Period. Question what the reasoning behind it, maybe, but to argue? Where do you have smicha from that allows you to paskan halacha?!
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Sacrilege: “I am not a Rav (and I didnt ask one)”
And there’s your problem. Do you have smicha? If not, why do you think you know what the halacha is?
“Also, I am just way too lazy to go and explain for 45 minutes why I am not going to be shaking their hand, 2 seconds it’s done, and for the rest of the meeting they arent looking at you like you have horns on your head. Don’t tell me they’ll respect you for it. I dont think they do.”
I hate to break this to you , but the halacha must be followed even when it’s not the lazy way out, and even when people won’t respect you for it. If the halacha says something is assur, whether it is convenient or not makes no difference: we must do what Hashem tells us to do, whether we enjoy it or not.