artchill:
1. sometimes, the abuser’s already in a situation where forgiving him wouldn’t hurt anyone. also, you’re still able to ‘turn up the heat/pressure’ after you’ve forgiven someone.
2. sometimes, the abuser is a. absolutely unaware that he is in fact abusing someone, and b. completely unable to control it if he were aware. personal experience. so this person, b”H, i have come to a point where i’ve almost completely foriven him.
it’s possible for s/o to be able to forgive and abuser.