Aidle Maidle I agree with you 100%. i am from those yes “bizzare” ppl that met my husband 3 times before getting engaged. i didnt speak to him during the 9 months of my engagement. I remember discussung with him 2 days after my wedding that i dont believe people that know each other for a year before they get married are less on a “high” than we were or yet more “in love” and now b”h a couple of years past my wedding i can still say the same. with time you get to see each others differences and likenesses in a more commited environment. when you are engaged you are not as commited and when something irks you, you get upset and you want to call off the shidduch. i started my married life thinking the WORLD of my husband. none of us hurt each other before, or had any arguments…
besides for this i find that couples that date or “oiver” on so many aveiros in regards to yichud, negiah… etc.