(sigh…)I am happy to hear the temimus in all of your words.
It is clear,however,that few or none of you have been involved with serious emotional/psychological abuse in the marriage you are/were in…it is far from simple…AND ONE PERSON HAVING HORRIFIC AND CRUEL MIDOS does not automatically make the other partner “selfish”,”egotistical”or equally responsible for the crumbling of the marriage. Some of those victims are traumatized to the degree that they would rather remain alone than risk possibly suffering that kind of degradation ever again.(sigh…sad,but true)