popa, Abusive people can be extremely charming when dating and before marriage.
Divorce will happen less when people will realize that that divorce should only be an option when their spouse is are verbally, emotionally, or physically abusive. Otherwise sorry, life is not a bowl of cherries. Learn to make the most of what gifts you do have. Be thankful of what you do have. Hashem sends a lot of gifts to us whether with our spouse or other gifts.
Happiness comes from inside of us, not from others, not even from our spouses.
And most of the time, if we work on becoming better people ourselves, if we work on our own middos, our marriage becomes better.