parents need to decide if their child will be “moved” by the boy/girl thing (which is also a problem in baltimore, brooklyn. 5 towns…etc….) there are issues for certain people going to israel, but between the mechanchos and the parents they should know the person well enough to HELP them decide what is best.
I do not think there is an idea of entitelment, just a desire to go.
nothing is necessary. but it MAY (or may not) be beneficial. maybe its not necessary for boys either…?