Aries,
Unfortunately lying is rampant in shidduchim. Shadchanim lie big time as well as the guys/girls refrences. I know someone who went out with a girl recently who was described as beautiful (not cute but beautiful!) By 6 different people who were called. Not only was the girl not beautiful, she’s very plain looking. The shadchan pushed for a 2nd date but the boys parents could not believe that after all that info she wasn’t even cute so they arranged to be there when their son picked her up and they saw that she was clearly not attractive. The fools who lie for these girls or guys are only making them go on wasted dates. You can “mean” well but they say the road to hell is paved with good intentions.