Interesting question cause it’s amazingly apropos to me right now. We just said no to a shidduch for our daughter because all the information we received said the same thing. Great boy, baal midos, but he isn’t a “learner”. To me this means he isn’t a ben torah. What’s a ben torah? BP Totty comment: “Who among us is not in favor of long-time learning? I’ve been “out of yeshiva” for more than 20 years, yet still learn.”
Ben Torah comment: “There are tons more good reasons — like the effect it has on your home, on your Mitzvah performance, on your personality, on your children — all of which are excellent reasons.”