Sacrilege
I will start off with the same apology. I dont mean any of this personal and please dont take it that way.
“Because someone watches a movie or listens to English music they cant want a husband who is a Talmid Chacham, and wants a home surrounded with Torah?!”
A home surrounded with Torah has no Tv, movies, non Jewish music and other secular stuff in it.
One of my Rabbeim said to a fellow bachur who said “Rebbe, I want to learn, he said “You want to WANT to learn, but if you wanted to learn, you would learn”
My point was that someone who has such feelings for Yiddishkiet would not be watching movies and listening to non Jewish music or doing other such obvious things which are not permitted. They dont go together.
The mistake people make is thinking that “Oh if im not yeshivish, now I can watch movies, listen to music…” It has NOTHING to do with yeshivish. Nothing! It has to do with being machshiv Torah and living your life according to the Torah. If you are Machshiv Torah and want that to be your life, there is no room for things like movies and music which are clearly assur. The things you see and hear on movies, the hashkafos, the znus….those things are all antithetical to Torah. The things you hear in the songs as well. Even the nice songs are all about lust and sex. Theres nothing about true love and a real marriage in any of the music.
A real passion for Yiddishkiet means you couldnt entertain the thought to be involved with movies and non Jewish music. It would disgust you on some level. You may want to be that person but you arent that person yet.
Im very impressed that you have stopped and congratulations on week one. I wish you much continued Hatzlacha in your spiritual growth. Come back in a few months after cold turkey on movies, tv, music…and other non Jewish shmutz and then we can discuss this. You will see what I mean. You will feel different. It will be real.