Sacrilege
People talk about growing together after marriage. However the only way to grow together, is if you are both on a process of growth before marriage. People “push off” the growing until after marriage and for those people they never grow. People don’t realize that they need to work on things before they get married because some things if not eradicated before marriage will likely never get eradicated. Or take many years or a serious wakeup call from Hashem.
A couple who both watch movies….before marriage will not stop after marriage. That’s not the natural way things work. A couple who both quit watching before marriage have a very strong chance that they won’t do so after marriage.
The same is with other shtusim that people are caught up in today. Stop while you are single!
Growing together isn’t about stopping to listen to non Jewish music together, movies, magazines, novels…
Its about growing your middos and growing in avodas Hashem. If someone is doing any of the above they have a whole list of things they have to stop doing before they can even begin growing together.
Maybe the reason you are still single is because Hashem wants to give you the opportunity to clean up shop so to speak. Hashem has a great guy ready for you but you may not be ready for him. You aren’t the person you need to be yet to be ready for marriage and maybe now is the time that it is mesugal for you to improve. You had the idea to stop movies and music. Keep strong with that. Listen Rabbi Mizrachis shiurim, listen to Rabbi Wallersteins shiurim. Maybe join Ohr Naavah….Continue to work on yourself and be inspired and become the person you know you can be.