Ben Torah-
Oy vey, I knew someone was going to ask.
Story was- shadchan tries to set me up with a girl, I already knew enough about her to know that she wasn’t for me (not just a personality issue but a skeleton hiding in the closet). Being that there was nothing to discuss (no point in saying any loshon hora) I didn’t give any reason just a strong “no”. The shadchan, not knowing about the skeleton, just assumed I was nervous to start dating and told the girl I wanted to go out with her.
We both agreed that if it’s a strong “no” then there’s no reason to give the shadchan any reason. What we didn’t agree on was if I should have gone out with her or not.