Oomis, your stories take the cake! Sheesh!
In my experience, people feel like they need to dole out their “sage” advice, which generally is babbling nonsense.
When my husband’s friend’s father passed away recently and we made a shiva visit, I told him that people were going to say plenty of stupid things and that it doesn’t end at shiva. People will say things like “What, its been 3 months, why are you still mourning?” I told him to ignore that and mourn as long as he feels the need to. I also told him that people would say things like “You’re young, you’ll get over it” and that wasn’t true. You learn to adjust to the void in your life, and its less obvious as days go on, but the loss of your parent never really leaves you. He said he found that comforting.
But, each person reacts differently.
I know people tend to like hearing fabulous stories about the person who died – the good ones about chesed they did, or funny stories and things like that. People want to revel in the good of their loved ones, NOT the bad ones.