I once went to nichum avelim and I said something to the wife of the deceased and she thought it was hilarious. I did not mean to be funny in any shape or form, but I’m glad I made her laugh…It did bother me for a while though, because what she understood was not at all what I was saying and it was not something I would ever say.
When sitting shiv’ah my family had some weird things said to us too. This was right before I made that remark that made the above mentioned lady laugh. After that happened, I realized that people sometimes say things and they come out wrooooongggg.