WolfishMusings
The Wolf
Is that so? I don’t think so. I have no charata because *if I had charata* I would take steps to correct it. But I don’t want to do that. I may regret doing things the way I did, but I’m still happy that, in the end, they *did* work out that way.
Even if I regret the manner, I don’t believe I can have charatah if, in the end, I’m happy with the end result (which, being happily married, I am).
I had a feeling you would reply this way, and I disagree with you. There is cetainly nothing halachically wrong with you and your wife being happily married. No one, even on this site, would say that you need to repent for that. But *if* we determine that the way you met is something that needs tshuva, then you could have charata on that aspect alone. The charata would be only on the fact that the outcome (marriage) happened in that particular way and not in a way that would make even Helpful happy.
Unless you think G-d *could not have* brought the two of you together in any other way?