WIY, it is not so simple. Sometimes you start out on the same page and the same footing as the school, or there are only two schools in your neighborhood to choose from and this is the best fit for your child and family. Then out of nowhere, the rules start to shift and the school starts to compete with the school one town over or in the next city and the rules become more and more stringent. YES WIY, this happens all the time.
For instance, my daughter was in a mainstream BY type school in Flatbush. My daughter is now 33, so we are going back some time. In the summer the sock man came to all the bungalow colonies and I stocked up on knee hi’s for the year. In maroon and navy as I always did. Now I get home and get a package from the school the first week in September stating that they changed the rules and now they would only allow WHITE knee hi’s. I called them up and told them “Sorry, it is too late to change this rule. Everyone buys and stocks up in the summer and no one starts to shop in Semptember. If you wanted to change this rule you should have done it in June at the end of the last term not after all the parents have already done their shopping. I am sending my daughter in the colored socks I have already spent MY budget on and YOU had better not say anything to her.” My friends all did the same.
The entire year and years to follow my daughter kept coming home with NEW RULES. It drove the kids nuts. So you see WIY it is not a matter of choosing a school with rules and then following them. It is a matter of a school deciding on the rules and then sticking to them!
I agree that when a family chooses a school they are obligated to follow their rules. But I don’t agree that when schools keep making up new silly rules that it applies as well especially when it is midstream.