my Rosh Yeshiva spoke exactly about this to me once. he says it’s better that his teenage son loafs on his couch during a seudah and reads Jewish things than be out on the street.
his son isn;t so “shtark”, and doesn’t dress black & white etc, BUT he is a good kid, KEEPS SHABBOS, has a “low-pressure” learning seder.
The R”Y also is PROUD that his son has a job and works.