Phrum
I treat each person/date as a completely different experience and go in with a clear mind and dont compare them to any other BT.
Every journey and person is so different so I find that when people make blanket statements about Bts its mainly out of ignorance.
I dated one guy who was from an extremely “frum” Reform family who came to the realization at 13 that Reform is completely hypocritical. He also felt that Aish and Ohr Samayach where brain washing programs and he was completely against the concept of the kiruv movement. He was extremely into learning but wasnt “Yeshivish” at all.
I also dated a guy who first came into contact with real frum jews through SEED, and that was the catalyst to his becoming Frum. He is extremely Yeshivish.
Those two examples I think were the most contrasting.
The “problem” I’ve encountered is that in the end I find that BTs usually are most comfortable with others with the same background as them. Fantastically, I think BTs want to marry FFBs but when push comes to shove they are usually most comfortable with people who went through the same experiences as themselves.
I’m not saying it cant be done, I would be more than happy to marry a BT, I feel that they are more sincere about their Yiddishkeit and they are more multi-faceted than the typical Yeshiva guy (thats just me) but more often than not if a BT is honest with themselves, they will realize that its easier and more comfortable to stick with like minded like experience people, instead of dating for x amount of years before coming to that conclusion.