pascha
I have gone out with some of those as well, frum out situations. More modern backgrounds and they became frummer then their families the examples that I gave where “real” BTs, altho the latters family did become shomer shabbos/tahara hamishpacha/kashrus due to his becoming frum.
BTW, check your email the Mods sent you my email address. I had though of a potential shidduch for you (if your interested)
mdd
I think many BTs would be offended by that statement. People, especially ones that have “kedusha tendencies” usually arent the ones that are partaking in the extra curricular activities, shall we say.